What happens when we’re going through uncertain times?
The whole world right now is dealing with a massive amount of uncertainty, You’re not alone.
Without understanding, we can’t address the behavior you’re dealing with effectively.
As human beings, certainty is a powerful basic need.
Certainty means that I need to know that I’m okay and you need to know that you’re okay.
I need to know that I have enough money to pay the bills, that my relationship is good, and that I’m healthy and well.
And when our certainty goes away, it really throws us off balance. “I just need to know where I stand,” or, “I need to know where this is going.”
So I see a lot with my own clients and patients. What happens when uncertainty comes up. When the child gets sick, when something rocks your world, and right now we have a lot of uncertainty. And the worst thing is, “I don’t know when this is going to end.”
We can cope with anything when it has an ending. “I can cope with pain.” When I know it’s going to end. “I can cope with stress,” and people cope with miserable winters because we know summer is coming. It’s not permanent, it’s temporary.
When living in uncertain times, the best way to deal with it is to choose that, “I am the certainty.”
It works. At any time.
Create a structure to bring about certainty in your life as much as possible. Make timetables for the family. Schedule in the things that you want to do. Fun time, yoga , exercises, Kids play time etc. If you are a parent, this is your truth “I am the certainty in my child’s life. If you can give yourself structure, you have not changed, you’re the same mom, the same dad, the same boyfriend, the same girlfriend, the same husband, the same wife, the same employee, the same employer. Your certainty hasn’t gone away, remember it’s in you. Yes, our mind likes certainty and is very uncomfortable with uncertainty, but you can give yourself certainty.
In the case that you may be losing your job. You may be losing your income, and we won’t deny that. It is what it is. Most importantly, your life will still go on. You won’t starve, You won’t be homeless. There are people who will help you. We’re all in this together. Please look at what you can do to give yourself certainty.
When you’re experiencing a lot of uncertainty in life it’s easy to feel unsettled. Humans need certainty in order to feel safe and to cope with any present suffering. Here’s a Youtube Video I made to help you connect with your truth. Watch the video to learn how you can create certainty for yourself to calm your anxiety and headaches/overthinking.
You must give certainty to yourself. You can’t find it from anyone else. If you wake up every day and say to yourself, “I love my life, I have certainty.” “I am in charge of my health, I’m in charge of my future.” The right information will be in front of you, the right books, the right people, everything will be there to support you.
Give yourself certainty in every way you can, give yourself a timetable, give yourself stuff to do, look for what’s good about this, and remember this too shall pass. I promise you it will pass. Life will go back to how it was before and a lot of good things will happen too. And you will be a better version of yourself. Courageous, loving, smart, caring, kind, because you’re unique and you’re you and you have more power to make yourself feel good/heal yourself than you could even imagine.